Meet Nicole, a 28 year old Houston native. On the outside she seems to be every man’s dream. She’s young, gorgeous and driven but everything isn’t always what it seems. CR journeys inside the mind of a “female playa” and reveals why the deception of sugar and spice is everything but nice...
CR: What were your thoughts on our "Ladies Man" post?
NP: I wasn't surprised by the ladies man post. I somewhat expect that any "single" man would be seeing multiple women... Although I still wouldn't want to be one of many.
CR: How many men are you currently seeing?
NP: How many men am I seeing? Well I'm "doing" two but I really like one. The other is just a guaranteed orgasm. No potential for much else there at all.
CR: Do you think they suspect they are being played. If not, why?
NP: I'm not playing anyone. I'm not in a relationship with either. The one that I really like probably assumes I "date" but most guys put me in a "good girl" box and tend to put a lot past me. The one whom it’s just sex with knows I date other people. We have somewhat of an understanding. I couldn’t care less if he dates others because he's not someone I'd want a relationship from. No steady job, baby mamas, smokes etc... He just serves as a pseudo BF when needed.
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CR: Have you ever been faithful to those whom you have committed to?
NP: I've been faithful to 1 guy. Surprising it was a sexless relationship by his choice that lasted about 6 months. I tried relentlessly to temp him but it never worked. I guess I didn't cheat because I found a challenge within the relationship to focus on. I cheated on my last boyfriend numerous times but that was only because he continually cheated. I still wanted to be with him for some odd reason and found revenge in knowing he would never in a million years suspect that his "good girl" would step out. I was careful to maintain that innocence by not bringing the new tricks I learned into the bedroom or I would allow him to think he was teaching me. If we commit I wouldn't cheat. I'd try not to at least [laughed].
CR: Do you always cheat with a motive and /or out of spite?
NP: I've only been in 3, maybe 4 committed relationships and I was faithful to 1. My motives for cheating weren’t always revengeful. For example, I cheated on my high school sweetheart towards the end of our 4 yr relationship which resulted in someone else taking my virginity but that situation just happened. I didn't plan it and felt really bad afterwards. I definitely don't go into relationships expecting to cheat and I have been in a situation where a guy cheated and I just ended it instead of doing the same.
CR: Do you cheat because you lack or because your partner lacks?
NP: Interesting question. I have had very few partners that satisfied me sexually, probably only 2 to be honest. The guys I've cheated with weren't always better than my significant other. I've had a lot of "one hitters" meaning I never went back for seconds because they were just a waste! I can't say that I've purposely cheated because my partner lacked but I've cheated with the guy I'm "doing" now before because he's just a guaranteed good fuck! When I'm in a relationship, the emotional connection makes up for sexual performance in most cases because as a woman I still crave and desire that. If I cheat for sexual satisfaction, it’s just that, sex.
CR: If you had to choose three things a man must posses to keep you from cheating what would it be?
NP: Hmmmm. Never gave much thought to what would prevent me from cheating. I'd say passion in all aspects of the word within the relationship, time and genuine commitment from him. Ironic, I know.
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