It’s safe to say there are some significant differences found in men and women of the millennium vs. the 1920's. The evolution of genders is astounding. It seems "independence" is now being worn as a pendent of pride by many of our women and encouraged by most men. Specifically, women are becoming 'bread winners', claiming cooperate positions formerly dominated by men and utilizing the microwave far more than the oven. While many men are more than willing to pass the tab on a dinner date, and content with being "stay at home dads". Does our society's embrace of independence and intermingling of gender roles work against an ultimate goal of developing a successful union between two individuals?
In other words: Can you have a successful relationship/marriage without "traditional" gender roles.
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It's 2011! Traditonal roles are just as dead as chivalry!!!
ReplyDeleteI'm stuck in the middle on this one. I enjoy being the 'independent' lady that I am and I must confess I do use the microwave a lot but I think a succsessful relationship is still very possible. Dually noted, I can't help but wonder if the decrease in traditional roles and the increase of failing marraiges are related...
ReplyDeleteThis is a hard one! I was just having a conversation with some guys about this topic. And one of them said, "Women are modern day" these days and it sometimes becomes a problem. And I can agree with him on the modern day woman. We are more independent and more career oriented. Do I think its directly correlated, gender roles and failing relationships...NO! I just think its all on who you are in the relationship with. Now I will be working, cooking, and taking care of the home! Karyn Denise says, "People are not even subscribing to gender roles these days...."
ReplyDeleteI am in the middle also. I believe as women we are suppose to evolve, but that does not mean we must evolve to creatures that shun (misspelled) away from our past. As women it is important to find a healthy balance between the two and finds what works for you and your partner. These "roles" worked to a degree...we are now wiser and we must take the past and present and fuse them together to make the "ultimate woman"... whatever that may be to you!
ReplyDelete*does this even make sense?
As a man, I believe that there are things that are a mans responsibility in a relationship as well as things that are a woman's responsibility. I think there are certain things that men and women are just made for. These things are few though. I think people are too quick to put things that are applicable to both sexes, such as cooking and cleaning, into a one-sex category and this causes problems. I think that people should move their focus from the "Role" their spouse should supposedly play in a relationship and move their focus to understanding the amount of respect and compromise required to have a successful relationship. J.Bell :-)
ReplyDeleteWomen should tread lightly with the "independent" badge. As soon as a man treats you as an independent, granting you all the roles of responsibilties of a man then you look at US like WE wrong! smh all im syaing is the perfect union you dreamed about sharing with a man since you were a little girl can't happen if you insist on being so independent and standing alone.
ReplyDeleteYou can but it would be very hard. What I've learned is what you accept from day 1 is what you're going to continue to get throughout. If you start off taking care of a man and allow him to take over the woman's role such as being stay at home dads, cooking and making less than you then that's what he'll continue to do with you and the next woman. I dont know that women becoming too independent has much to do with the shift in men no longer being men. Men are just not like they used to be and I am not sure why. To a certain extent women allowing men to not conform to thier traditional gender roles is ruining them. In the end, women are being forced to adapt and take care of themselves.
ReplyDeleteYes but no. In the 70s it was perfect because women allowed men to be in control because we were taught to do so. In my marraige I didnt have to work because my husband was the bread winner and the decision maker in the household and I was fine with that. I later decided to work because I was bored and my kids were in school. I think in order to make a marraige work it must be 50/50.
ReplyDeleteNow that women are more dominant they tend to throw it in the mens faces. I have a girlfriend whose the "bread winner" and emasculates her husband. He conforms because she brings home the bacon. I dont think a lack or gender roles will work in today's society because inevidably the men will feel belittled or useless in the relationship. Even if a woman makes more money she should still allow her man to lead the household. There must be a balance of King and Queen in the home. Yes, both are powerful and respected but the King is superior!
This is a tough question. I am the epitome of independence and I was brought up this way. My mom was and still isthe bread winner and taught me to rely on only myself. This lesson was validated in seeing that my father never kept a steady job and if she relied on him we wouldn't get fed.
ReplyDeleteHowever, the gender roles were kept. My mother still came home from work and cooked dinner while my dad took out the trash, fixed the broken sink or changed flat tires and took pride in doing so. He also taught my brothers to do the same while my mom taught me to cook and clean. Because of this balance I'm very self sufficient but have no problem being a woman in every aspect to the word to a true man.
Society's expectations can influence your own and put pressure on the relationship.
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