The Breakdown: What Type of Woman Are You?

Introducing the Rescuer!!!

Rescuer Anthem: 'Clean up Woman'

Rescuing and fixing your man will make you feel indespensable and secure in your belief that as long as he needs you, he'll always love you too. But take a closer look and you'll spot the serious side effects of this safety-seeking love substitute. Rescuing and fixing always leave the Rescuer feeling:

-Alone. He will soak up the goodies, but never change his ways, and never manage to give back as much as you give out. Or he will soak up the goodies, get fixed and walk away from the woman he "needs" towards the one he wants.

- Resented. Your fixing will eventually make him feel needy and dependent, so he'll reject, ignore, or show no appreciation for your efforts.

- Exhausted. He will become addicted to your rescuing and fixing, and progress to demanding more and more of it--- ultimately more than you can possibly give.

The above are excerpts from pages 29-30 of the book How to Love a Black Man written by Dr. Ronn Elmore

The Locker Room

We hope everyone had a wonderful Thankgiving but now it's time to get back to Cupid's Reality!!!

    CC sat down with four professional atheletes and I must say Houston ladies have made quite the name for themselves in the world of atheletes. These ballers say that atheletes know to hide their wallets when they come to Houston! That's right ladies, Houston women have the reputation of being GOLD DIGGERS!!!! These hot atheletes say they know a gold digger from a mile away and Houston is their nest. On the brighter side, They did mention that New York, California and Houston have some of the most beautful women in the U.S.A. but when it comes to handing out the best body award....Houston wins hands down!!!! So to summarize this interview: Houston women are beautiful with the bodies of greek goddesses but you have to pay to play! Now I must say, I've witnessed quite a few "opportunist" in Houston and beautiful ones at that! But don't put us in a box fellas there are some good ones out here as well!!!

Cupid's Proverb

"We ignore those who adore us & adore those who ignore us."

                                                                                                          -Tony Henry

Men...Want to know How to Keep Her Attention?!?!

Cupid's Cousin really wants to help the men step their game up. If you follow our 5 tips.... we guarantee results:

#5: Don't be too friendly, ugh
- Well, if you discuss topics that friends discuss, then she will classify you as a friend. Yes, relationships should grow into full-fledged partnerships, but this is not so at the beginning. And if this isn't enough, she will tell you stories about all of the other men she likes and is pursuing.

#4: Keep her guessing
- Women like mystery. Now, CC is not saying that you should lie to them, nor are we saying that you should play games, but you should leave something hidden. Feed her a little at a time, keep her guessing!

#3: Do NOT make the first move
- So, show some interest -- this is the bait after all -- but keep your cards to your chest instead of slamming your two-of-a-kind on the table. Who knows? You may end up with a full house if you're patient.

#2: Be the Best you can be
- No, do not join the army, even though women like men in uniform. Rather, make sure you smell good, have fresh breath, are well-groomed, and look your best. Yes, some women do not care about looks, especially when your bank account swells to the seven-digits. However, the same way that men demand their women be good-looking, women demand and deserve the same. You have been warned.

#1: Manage her expectations
- Making her come to you is the easy part; keeping her is the real challenge. When you meet your dream woman, be honest with yourself and her: Do not portray yourself in a different light. Call it like it is and you will avoid headaches and misery down the road. Most importantly, she will see that you are being genuine, sincere and honest, and she will, therefore, want you by her side forever.

Damn! You smell good!

Here are some hot scents for you to smell your best! We all know that after Thanksgiving your are full, tired, and overwhelmed...but you always find time to par-tay!!! Make sure you don't smell like stuffing, so here are our suggestions:

Scent Type #1: Citrus/Green
Géranium pour Monsieur

Stay away from straight-up lemon, which can suggest furniture polish. Instead, try Géranium pour Monsieur. The geranium essence is boosted by mint, giving the impression of citrus without the cleaning-product hit, plus a green that's less lawn-mower clippings and more tender young grapevine.
50 ml, $135


 

Scent Type #2: Woodsy

La Nuit de L'Homme

If the men in your office still wear fat ties, consider the most conservative class in scentdom. YSL's newest version of L'Homme, La Nuit de L'Homme, has a subdued core structure with wood scents that read solid, burnt and aromatic spices that read clean. Very Edgey!
2 oz, $55


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Sex Tips from Guys to Girls!

GET HIM RILED UP:

"I can't be the only guys who loves when a woman licks that soft patch of skin in front of my ears" -Jamie 23

"Wet your lips and moan that you can't wait to taste me" -Sam 22

"An ex came to bed in a soakin gwet white t-shirt. The sight was jaw dropping" -Nick 30

"Seeing a woman's lips glide over the neck of a beer bottle always make me think of her mouth on me" -Ty 21

FEISTY FOREPLAY:

"Reach into your panties and touch my lips with your wetness" -Troy 28

"My girl held my tongue in place with her teeth during a make out session while she tickled her own tongue. Electrifying!" -Howard 30

"When I put my finger in my girl, she inserted one of her digits too so I could feel our fingers together. Blow on it" -Beck 33

HANDS DOWN THERE DOMAIN

"Pull my pants down to my thighs. This limits my ability to move, and I'll feel like your captive" -Thad 27

"Brush your teeth with minty toothpaste before going down on me. It'll feel extra shivery" -Patrick 24

"While giving me oral, most chicks stop as soon as I reach my peak. But this one woman keep her lips on me through my climax. It was heavenly" -Chuck 27

"Rub my piece against your lips like you're applying lipstick" -Henry 23

MORE TO COME....

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Girl Talk

Okay Ladies don't shoot the messenger! We were asked by CC to summarize juicy conversations amongst the 6 of us and this is one of the topics we talked about the other night. Women DO CHEAT and we do it well!!!!! Men like to think of us as loyal lovers who will never step outside of the relationship and for the most part men are right. I think men cheat a lot more often but get caught because they are horrible liars or they can't keep up with their lie. It also seems like men give in to infidelity and for women infidelity gives in to us! Men tend to be weakened by temptation and cheat as a result. With women cheating is premeditated from the beginning to the end. Actually beginning to the end should be the title of this entry (hint to CC) because when a lie comes out the mouth of a woman she will keep it from the beginning to the end!!! One thing that works to the woman's advantage is the fact that the man she is cheating with probably knows all about her mate and couldn't care less. Men have more of a need to be discrete because the shit will hit the fan if he is “outed” on either side. Women are notorious for contacting the 'other woman' and setting things straight. We also talked about the advantage women have because men don't expect us to cheat thus they don't look for it. Well it's the counter for women our history says the next man will probably cheat just like the last so we look for it from the beginning to the end. Now men don't get worried actually 4 of the 6 of us don't cheat and have no desire to do so. I think we all agree that women are naturally the more loyal of the sexes and its a good thing because if that weren't the case men would be in trouble!

Cupid's Chronicles::Brandon: Fork in the Road.

Long time no write. I still have 'encounters' with "DD" nightly. Lately, she has been spending the night but we arrive to work in seperate cars. Now this works for me but the other day she hinted towards us riding to work together! I don't know how to feel about that 'ish. She is cool and we've been chillin together alot but I'm still skeptical. I just laughed it off like it was a joke but I know that it will come up again and soon. To be honest I would really consider making her more than what she is if we hadn't started off the way we had. I'm thinking I may have to cut this tree from the root....I could use your feedback on this one. Ladies, please don't rip me a new one!!! lol

2 Week Dating Challenge, Part III

We dared you to rev up your love your life the next 2 weeks. We hope you followed our first 3 days, and it is never too late to start. Alright let's continue, ladies and gentlemen take heed:

Day 5: Join a dating connection website.
- No, I promise it is okay! There are an increasing number of people that are signing up. Though some charge a fee it is worth. Isn't it worth investing in your love life and happiness?

Day 6: Be Alone
- Go to a happy hour, dinner, or a social spot alone. That's right I said ALONE! You don't even have to talk to people the first couple of times. Why this works? Well knowing what you like and who you like without any social pressure or peers to sway you to go another way, will help you realize what YOU want. Many of us are unaware of how much weight we put in our friends opinions and judgment, and sometimes with this you could be blocking the love of your life from entering.

Day 7: 3 in 1
- Go on THREE dates in ONE day. One for lunch, happy hour, then dinner... Hey we are all very busy people so utilize your time wisely. You are not tied down to anyone and are trying to meet Mr. Right. You will at least get 3 meals out of it, so that is always a plus.

Day 8: Conventions! Conventions! Conventions!
- Okay what is better than being around 100s of people that have similar interest as you do? There are hundreds of various conventions around the country each year, and there is surely one that you can go to. Conventions bring in a variety of people from all around the country to one central location. I mean, c'mon... it is like a pool of "potentials" in one place just for you!

The Breakdown: What Type of Woman Are You? Introduciing the Controller

Your Love Anthem: "My Way"


THE CONTROLLER

- Is super-responsible, pragmatic and hardworking. Your patience wears thin for men who aren't.
- Expects their men's love to be demonstrated by bowing to their standards, values and expectations.
- Constantly try to convince themselves and others that they aren't manipulative, compulsive or demanding.
- Tend to talk about their emotions rather than expressing them.
-Use silence, withdrawal or departure to punish their man when he fails to do it there way.


(The above is a summarization of page 24 of the book “How to Love a Black Man" by Dr. Ronn Elmore)

Controller: True or Flase coming soon...

The Breakdown: What Type of Woman Are You? Pleaser continued....

Are you a pleaser? CC summarized pages 19-21 of the book "How to Love a Black Man" by Dr. Ronn Elmore. REMINDER: if you answer true to ANY of these, you have ‘pleaser’ tendencies.

True or False.

1. You tend to play a role around men. Making sure to dress, speak and act a certain way that is different from the real you.
2. You do humiliating things to make or keep contact with men. (You have been know to pursue commitment is ways that border on begging)
3. You go out of your way to keep the relationship progressing along so that all he basically has to do is show up.
4. You give up your money, body and tie in way you don't want to but you do it because he wants it.
5. You are constantly thinking of ways to make him more impressed with you.
6. You settle for far less of him than you give out.
7. You know exactly what you want with him but almost never clearly state it.
8. You have become good at justifying, defending and explaining his mistreatment of you.
9. You are comfortable giving love and affection but have hard time accepting his compliments and affection.
10. You let other important areas in your life (friends, health, career) suffer when you are in a relationship.
11. You mood is tied up with his behavior and his mood.
12. You avoid showing negative emotions around him (i.e. anger or jealousy) from fear that he won’t approve.

YOUR PROBLEM: Low self esteem. You feel something is wrong with you when there isn't a Pedestal Man with you.

GIRL TALK

Girl Talk is a new segment that we are introducing to give men a "fly on the wall" perspective into the secret lives of women. CAUTION: these topics may get a little heated & many women won't ever admit to having these thoughts but Cupid's Cousin found a few brave souls who aren't afraid of a little 'girl talk' enjoy...


I was asked by CC to send in a summary of convo's I have with my gal pals ever so often. This opportunity was offered a few weeks ago but lately we haven't been talking about any note worthy topics. When this particular convo got started we knew it was worth mentioning! So, we got on the topic of porn and one of my friends boldly stated that girl-on-girl porn gets her going. I felt the same way but was hesitant to mention it. Long story short, eventually all 6 of us agreed that girl-on-girl porn is a definite turn on! So then the question comes up..."does that mean we're gay?". We all prefer heterosexual relationships but get 'revved up' when seeing two women sexually. We all agree that we have no desire to be in a lesbian relationship but seeing the sex is HOT!!! We are clueless to what this means it's just hilarious that all of us feel the same way and never said anything.

So we ask the ladies, do you all enjoy girl-on-girl porn and what do you think it means?

Cupid's Chronicles::Candice: Drought

This just in on random news at 1:00.....I am so horny!!!! This has been my longest drought season to date. I told myself that I wouldn't partake in casual sex but I don't know if I can hold on! Wouldn't a booty buddy be fitting for my lifestyle? I am young, attractive, well paid but still ambitious. A lady like myself doesn't have time for a relationship I just need a psuedo boyfriend. His responsibility would be to give me affection and orgasms as needed. That sounds way too good to be true....I guess it will be me and my silver bullet until I find a 'no strings attached' situation. BTW I strongly suggest the silver bullet w/remote to all my lustful & lonely ladies!!! Now back to your regularly scheduled program!

Cupid's Proverb

You have to be happy yourself in order to share in other people's happiness.

2 Week Dating Challenge, Part II

We dared you to rev up your love your life the next 2 weeks. We hope you followed our first 3 days, and it is never too late to start. Alright let's continue, ladies and gentlemen take heed:

Day 4: Don't decide for yourself

- Whether checking out the ladies at a party, a club, or online, let your best friend pick the guy/girl you should go for. This works because they may select someone you'd never even consider, and sometimes the person you don't think is your type is the best one for you.

Day 5: Get out of town

- Traveling or business? Hit a happy hour in a commercial district or a hotel bar that's popular with the locals. On a solo vacation? Dine in restaurants where you can eat at a bar or there's open seating to up your chances of rubbing elbows with the single somebody. This works because travel broadens your horizons, this automatically making you more open to new possibilities and best of all people. Leave your comfort zone and you will be more receptive to the people you meet.

Day 6: Seek spiritual guidance

- Whatever your religious beliefs, seek an unusual but excellent resource.... that's right go to your Pastor, Minister, Rabbi, or whom ever! Well if you think about it they know everyone in their church and have an excellent perspective on all the members.

Day 7, 8, 9 coming November 11th

*CC would like ot thank Essence Magazine February 2007 issue for some of these helpful tips idea!

Cupid's Chronicles: Alex:: Have my cake and eat it too!!! mmmm

Hey blog world. Well let me catch you up if you do not already know. My name is Alex, I have a boyfriend of 7 years. He is great. I got bored and cheated with my ex-boyfriend. Last time I left you guys I was feeling bad and depressed. Wellll.... things have changed. I'm officially having an "affair" with my ex. We have been on a few dates and he is so fun. I swear I can laugh and just act like myself around him. He is thoughtful and listens, and best of all he knows I am involved.

I know you all are like "why don't you break it off with your current boyfriend?", well if it was that simple I would. My boyfriend is caring, committed BUT boring. He doesn't allow me to let go and be free, and when I do he looks at me with disgust and confusion. I mean we use to do all that, but now he is simply boring. PLUS, and a big plus is...... (click "read more" for the juice)

2 Week Dating Challenge

We dare you to rev up your love your life the next 2 weeks. Take our advice for the next 14 days and you will learn how to get your mate's attention! So ladies and gentlemen take heed:

Day 1: Get 5 friends to hook you up.
- Put out a dating SOS to all your friends telling them you would like to be set up. Why does this work? Well who knows you best?... That's right your friends. Chances are you will at least have a good time and find someone you are compatible with

Day 2: Just ask him out, already!
- There is always that one guy you have been checking out. Give him a smile and ask him if he'd like to have dinner. THAT'S RIGHT LADIES, you ask them out! This works because he might accept, The End!

Day 3: Flirt with the people you are NOT interested in.
- Touch the postman's shoulder and thank him for doing such a good job. Tell the cab driver this is the smoothest ride you've had all week, or mention to the 411 operator that you think she has a great voice. Why, you may ask? Well practice makes perfect, and you'll want to be adept at flirting when that sexy lady walks into your life.

Day 4, 5, 6 coming November 8th

*CC would like ot thank Essence Magazine February 2007 issue for some of these helpful tips idea!

To Shack or not to Shack????

Is living together still taboo?

She was nervous.
He was divorced.

They loved each other, but is right now the right time to move in together? Could they overlook the sex issue due to their religious beliefs? Would the relationship last?


This has long been a taboo subject, the issue of sex and living together before marriage. There are 3 issues CC will address and we would love to hear your thoughts:


1. The Contract: Just think about it you, a single 27 year old female, are just finally finding your independence, and you just found the right color paint for your living room decor. Your boyfriend proposes that you two live together to save money and spend quality time together. Makes sense right?
Well we all have seen it before...2 lovers move in... invest together...buy new furniture TOGETHER...then BAM! They break up and now they have all these things they have to split. Well save all that drama and agree on a cohabitation contract before moving. It gives you peace of mind and saves you the DRAMA.

Click "Read More" for the rest

What Women Hate in Bed!!!

The men voiced their grievances and now the women bite back! CC spoke with a panel of beauties to investigate what women hate in bed!

-I'M ON TO YOU: Women say they can tell when you're "going down" simply as a tool to get her lubricated vs doing it because you enjoy pleasuring her. Get into it guys!!!!
-YOU'RE SO SELFISH: Ladies are frustrated with men having all the fun! If she doesn't climax through intercourse, find another way to take her there!
-SO PREDICTABLE: Is there a mandetory "foreplay" (or lack there of) class that all men take? More times than not men follow the same path time and time again! KISS-NECK-BREAST-ORAL-PENETRATION. Women can see these predictable steps from a mile away! They demand a change!!!
-PORN OBSESSED: This goes to all those over zealous porn collectors! Women ask that you please stop targeting the uterus! It hurts! Have you seen the anatomy of a porn star? Waaaayyy Different. In this case art doesn't always imitate life!!!
-BE GENTLE: When licking or touching the clitorous pressure is the key! If your finger or tougue applies too much pressure you will definitely make her squirm but not in the way you'd like to believe! Her flower is delicate. Treat it as such!
-TRUTH HURTS: Women want to let men know that they do fake it ALOT! 9 times out of 10 the sex is just blah. You think you're doing so well and they just don't have the heart to break it to you!

What Men Hate in Bed

CC asked and boy oh boy did they answer! Here are some things men hate for women to do behind closed doors!!!

1. Don't Just Lie There: Men hate a boring woman who expects him to do all the work. Don't be lazy be nasty!!!


2. Push & Pull: You can caress it; you can stroke it but please don't pull it!!!! Apparently men ask that ladies keep the tough tugging to themselves.

3. Make Me Beg for it: Men want women to take control...oral control that is! Men feel it’s a major turn on when they don't have to ask for oral AND you get bonus points if you appear to enjoy it!

4. Trim the Hedges: The unkempt bush is soooo 1972! Men want your ' little lady' to be well manicured. The shapeless bush implies you could care less!

5. Take the Initiative: Usually it’s the man who gets things started with soft kissing and steamy licks. Well men are tired of it and want women to take the initiative!

The Breakdown: What Type of Woman Are You?

Before entering another relationship it is important to know what you need to work on. Over the next few weeks CC is breaking down the makings of a woman in love. Men pay close attention and investigate the wiring of women you normally date! Author Dr. Ronn Elmore has written a book that spot lights 5 types of women: Pleasers, Controllers, Avoiders and Bashers. First up, Pleasers!!!

Pleasers Anthem: "You're Nobody Until Sombody Loves You".

The Mind of a Pleaser:
-You're in love with love and the trappings that go with it.
-You feel great about yourself when a man shows interest and horrible when they don't
-You are secretly more competitive with other women and struggle w/ feelings of inadequacy around men.
-Men and relationships are almost always the center of your thoughts and conversations.
-You hope having a Pedatsal man of your own will somehow make up for not feeling like a Pedestal woman yourself.

Okay we'll stop there, just wanted to give our readers some food for thought! We will delve deeper into the 'pleaser' later on in the week and find out why this type of lover will always have problems in her relationship. CC would like to suggest that all readers keep an open mind and be honest about their flaws. We understand the truth hurts but it will also elicit change and improvement if you allow it.

Date Hot Spot

Looking for a place to go this Halloween weekend? What could be more appropriate than a haunted house?! Scream World located right off TC Jester has 5 haunted attractions. This creepy exhibit was voted the most scary haunted house in Houston. Enjoy your screams and scary dreams!!! Be safe this weekend!!!

Cupid's Chronicles::Brandon: More than Meets the Eye

I noticed last entry left a few females upset. I'd love to apologize but it wouldn't be sincere. I am an older male but if I make a rash decision to have sex with a beautiful woman while under the influence sue me! Last I checked I am a man and a SINGLE man at that so do me a favor, the day I decide to pass on sex with a woman I've admired for months shoot me! No wonder some of these readers are SINGLE females. They are way too hard on men. I'll leave that topic alone. My crush turned disposable dame (DD) is still in the picture, sexually more than anything else. Our sexual encounters have become alot more frequent. We're averaging about 4-5 times a week. Contrary to popular belief I'm not heartless, so we do talk alot and I must say that the sober her is very impressive. She seems like a cool chick. I 'm just not trying to be decieved. She's younger and highly desired. I'm sure I'm one of many. So for now she'll remain my DD. Lol

Cupid's Proverb

Love has no awareness of merit or demerit; it has no scale...

Love loves; this is its nature.

Cupid's Chronicle: Alex:: Blind leading the Blind

I am not my flesh.... I am more than this. I must meditate on these words to continue. I've been praying, fasting, and constantly thinking, but I am still dealing with this feeling inside me.

It might be time for me to be alone, and stop dragging my boyfriend blindly with me... either he knows or I let go.

The pleasure of my ex, haunts me daily. 

Hot Halloween Couple Costumes

It's that time of the year again, and you want to make sure you look great in your costume. Here are some hot ideas for you and a date to go as to a halloween party:

Yes, it's been done, but that's because it's fun! Let your guy live out his Hef fantasies by giving him a night with the ultimate girl next door. What happens in the grotto stays in the grotto, right?

What is better than dressing up like a sexy scene straight out of Grey's Anatomy? Just replace all the drama to a night of pure TLC....

We're not sure whether it's the accent or his sweet disposition, but we haven't fallen this hard for a cold-blooded charmer since Kermit. And don't even get us started on the Caveman. It's up to you to decide who gets to play which part, but both of you are sure to impress your friends. Plus, this costume might just save you 44 percent on your treat bag....lol

Click "read more" some more great ideas.....

Body Language: Are You Being Lied To?

Have a feeling you're not getting the whole truth? Well here are some non-verbal flags that tell you when someone is not being honest.

1. A person who is lying to you will avoid making eye contact.

2. Hands touching their face, throat & mouth. Touching or scratching the nose or behind their ear. Not likely to touch their chest/heart with an open hand.

3. A guilty person gets defensive. An innocent person will often go on the offensive.

4. A liar is uncomfortable facing his questioner/accuser and may turn his head or body away.

5. A liar might unconsciously place objects (book, coffee cup, etc.) between themselves and you.

6. Physical expression will be limited and stiff, with few arm and hand movements. Hand, arm and leg movement are toward their own body the liar takes up less space.

Click the link below to find out about more body language that implies deception!
 http://www.blifaloo.com/info/lies.php

Cupid's Chronicles::Candace: Men Wanted

Good News!!!! He finally came to his senses!!!! After that jerk suggested I take him to dinner for our first date I completely cut him off. Days later he calls and attempts to ignore our previous falling out and hold normal convo. This only made me more upset so I told him I had to end the phone call. He calls back, seconds later, and claims he was joking with the 'dinner thing'. I must admit this upset me as well because he failed to be honest and say "I'm just a jerk" but I decided to take it easy and allow him to make it up to me. Now, I know there are some men thinking she is sooooo overreacting but he really pissed me off! Anyway we went to dinner this weekend then back to his place for some late night chat. I've been wanting to jump his bones since I met him and once I got to his place I could tell he knew it. He began to over work his sex appeal. I don't know how to explain it, he was gazing into my eyes and doing all types of cliche things. I had to hold my laughter in when he went to the restroom fully clothed and came out with no shirt on! He claimed water got on his shirt. Now I must be honest he had the body of a god but I was just turned off! So needless to say he got no XXX action. I'm as shocked as you all are lol! I have to hand it to the readers who commented on my last entry, you all are RIGHT I'm dating boys not men :( Now I just have to figure out how to change this...P.S. It is so sad that through the entire date I was thinking of how I would word the nights events in my next entry! lol

Cupid's Chronicle: Alex:: Jezebel

Okay so I took a sabbatical from EVERYTHING… I had to reflect on myself… I honestly feel I need more time because I feel as though a lustful freak beast has been released. It is like men are looking at me different and approaching me different. I honestly feel like a Jezebel walking the streets on the prowl. I’m also walking different and paying more attention to how I look. I wear make-up to work and doing my hair. What is this new feeling I am feeling?

So now there is a guy at work that on a normal day I would never have given him the time of day, but now I am purposely trying to “seduce” him, and it is working. I lean over his desk, when I have to tell him something I say it closer to his ear, give him longer looks at meetings. It’s like the FREAK BEAST has been pushed down for so long, and it is now busting out.

Oh maybe I should say something about my boyfriend…lol! Wellllll, he has noticed a change and he does not like it. He looks at me in the morning putting my making up on, and I see him from the mirror looking at me thinking “Wtf? Why is she getting all cute for work?”… Well my dear…. I cheated on you and I have no control over myself.

I need a leash and someone to tame me. I am so bad…

Estavan: I'm back...

Hey ya'll! So as you may have noticed...I've been M.I.A Well where to begin? As you all may have figured out by the little talk I had with CC last week, I in fact am of the homosexual orientation. That is right...I am gay. Shocking I know! Just to get it out there, I don't personally like it when people refer to is a "sexual preference." That implies that I prefer to be attracted to men, of course, that is not that case; however, within the past few weeks I have began to be curious about women. Well "woman" more so than "women." I'm not sure how to really describe what I've been feeling for this girl. She contacted me through facebook. We went to school together, HIGH SCHOOL! Well she added me as a friend and vice versa. I'm sure you are familiar with the working of facebook. So moving on...we began to email each other, sorta instant emailing. I had to cut it short because I had to head out to work, she emailed me her phone number and I did the same. The next day she sent me a text and for the past two weeks we have been corresponding throughout the day. She told me, on the first day of texting, that she was hurt because I had stopped talking to her my senior year in high school, I did not know that I had done so. I could be a bit of an ass, so hey excuse me for not keeping up with my reasoning for detaching from people. I'm pretty good at that. Anywho, she told me I had contacted her four days before my graduation, let me remind you-high school graduation, and she thought I was calling her to reconcile our friendship. Wrong, I had called her to ask her for her cousin's contact info to invite him to my graduation. Hahaha, I am an ass! The reason why she was so hurt was because she really liked me, well in her words, she LOVED ME. I was really surprised by that. I really had no idea. Well I apologized. For some reason, as we have conversed back and forth for the past few weeks, this interest for her has crept. Problem is I'm not really sure what it means. I'm currently dating a guy, or as he likes to say, we are getting to know each other. He's never dated a guy before so he's really careful on how he words things. Labeling us to soon could scare him off! I'm beginning to have feelings for him. I mean my physical attraction is with men, but having this old friend come back into the picture has reminded me of what a relationship is like with a woman. Since coming out four years ago, I have yet to find a stable relationship with a man. The guy I am seeing now is typical of the guys I attract and am attracted to. I find someone who is smitten by me and is willing to "give it a try" with me. I come into their lives and for some reason they see me as...forget it, I'm not going there right now. I'll leave that for another day. Just wanted to let you know that this gay man might just be turning back....YEAH RIGHT! Or am I...

Cupid's Cousin Executives Listen

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Cupid's Chronicles::Brandon: She Circled 'Yes'

I finally asked her out for drinks! We meet up and she is out of her work clothes and sexier than I've ever seen her in my life! Conversation flowed pretty well and she seemed to have a good head on her shoulders. The night goes on and she is on her third margarita and I would swear she became her sexually aggressive twin sister or something! She started with the flirting eyes then she started to get a bit more touchy and making sexual comments. It's totally out of my character to take advantage of a drunken damsel but we must keep in mind I was on my fifth drink! Long story short we had sex! She must have graduated from porn star university with honors because she got an A++++++!!! Now I have good news and bad news. The bad news is she will never be a serious love interest for me. The good news is I have a new disposable damsel!!! And she is so good at what she does! I'm sorry to sound so harsh ladies but she already talked to several guys at my job so one can only assume their night ended like mind did....

Great Date Spot: Lucky Strike

Are you tired of when you go bowling it is always the same environment? Smoke, bad music, dirty floors, horrible food....etc...

Well Houston has opened a new bowling alley that has a upscale lounge feel called Lucky Strike Lanes. This bowling alley is not typical...the environment is chic, food is delicious, and very clean.

This is a great place for double dates and small parties.

It is located:

Downtown Houston

1201 San Jacinto St., Houston, TX 77002

Phone: 713.343.3300

There is also an area entitled LUXE, where there are 4 lanes in a private premium suite.

 

Call for details or click on the link below

 

http://www.bowlluckystrike.com/home

Cupid's Proverb

Time is tricky when it comes to matters of the heart. Some may fall in love within a week while others may need years to heal from heartbreak.

Cupid's Chronicles::Candace: Is it Me?

I am so pissed people!!! You all remember that "hot" guy that I met a couple of weeks back right? Well, we've been talking quite often but we haven't seen each other since our initial encounter. So, he finally asked when he would see me again and I'm thinking YES!!! THEN this asshole messes up the moment by asking am I going to treat?! Okay, I gave him the benefit of the doubt and assumed it was a bad joke but NO ten minutes later he brings it up again! He says "no really, where are you taking me?" I'm sorry but I must be honest, I completely lost it! Why would he assume that I was going to wine and dine him? He didn't even suggest we go dutch! I always thought it was understood that the man treats but lately I'm noticing the tide has turned and I DON'T LIKE IT! Make no mistake, I am more than capable of paying for his dinner x10. If we were established I would have no issue but on the first date?!!! It just annoys me that men don't want to be men these days! Okay I'm done venting I just had to get that off my breasts lol. If he only knew he was going to get the best XXX of his life for dessert! I was sooo looking foward to it :( Okay I'm desperate maybe he still will get some dessert. Thanks for being my virtual therapy people!!!!

Estevan Breaks His Silence

CC sits down with Cupid’s Chronicle cast member Esteban as he breaks his silence & speaks candidly about love in the gay community!


CC: How long have you known you were gay?
Esteban: I’ve known forever. I was about 6 or 7 when I realized I was different.


CC: Did you ever date women?
Esteban: yea I did. Not a lot but a few. I guess it was just enough to cover it up. I had a few in college & had a long term girlfriend of about 3 and a half years.


CC: Do you think she ever knew you were gay?
Esteban: No. She would make comments sometimes like “oh you’re so gay” but that phrase is used sometimes to refer to a certain thing that a guy might do that is feminine. Not that I’m feminine but I guess certain things that I did.


CC: I must say you’re not very feminine at all. I’ve seen some pretty feminine ones before.
Esteban: yea (laugh)


CC: So sex! Did you have to fake it? Did you have to think of a man to get the job done?
Esteban: yea that was weird. Usually… (pause) well it depends on the sex; if it was quick and to the point, you know a “nooner” type thing in between work I could do the job without thinking about guys. If it was more of a passionate love making session then, yea it’s kind of bad to say, but I would definitely have an image of that guy walking down the hall or some guy I saw on TV.


CC: Did it feel good with a woman?
Esteban: It did. It did. All my (physical) senses are down there so it works. It’s just the mind that wasn’t there.


Down Low Men


CC: Have you ever dated any “Down Low” Men? If so, how do you feel about the DL phemonenom?
Esteban: I have. I can’t say I have dated any DL men but I have definitely messed around with them. It’s just funny. It kind of feeds off of that ‘every gay man wants a straight man’ thing. A down low man is the closest thing to a straight man. They’re usually married with kids and live a ‘straight’ life.


More on Down Low men when you click READ MORE!

Cupid's Chronicles:: Alex: Was lust worth it?

Damn! ... is all I have to say. I met my ex for lunch... and let's just say I had more than lunch on the menu. Yeah we had sex and it was so passionate and lustful and good, BUT it was in my car. During it, I didn't care; I just wanted him so bad. Let's just say the lust was the only thing fueling my mind.

Wham Bam and 20 minutes later... we were done. Time to go… and all I could say was "thanks".... wtf?

Driving back home I put it on 102.1 and my heart was beating with music. But this was not the heart beat of love... it was the heartbeat of shame. I felt like throwing up right there in my car on the freeway. The rain began to pour down and the sky was grey ... and right then I felt like I sold my soul for lust, for those 20 minutes of passion. My hand was on the steering wheel and I couldn’t stop shaking. No tears though, no crying... just one simple thing, GUILT!

Well I got my lust...now I wish I only had the love of my boyfriend.

What am I suppose to do, go home and kiss him? That's disgusting...so I took the coke I had in my car spilled it all over my lap, so when I walked in I had an excuse to go straight to bathroom and take a shower, hoping the water will cleanse the shame.

Cupid's Chronicles::Brandon: Opening Act?

Wow I feel like I was just an opening act compared to Rich lol. He really put it all out there! Well I haven't covered much ground yet. I'll keep you all posted.

Cupid's Proverb

A 60 story building with a weak foundation will crumble. This is no different with a romantic relationship. Fix you first then build your relationship.

Dating Hot Spot

Looking for a nice place to take your date this weekend? Grab some light bites then take a stroll around Houston's Sculpture Garden. This spacey atrium, located in the museum district, is loaded with abstract sculptures that will unveil your inner artist!!!

Cupid's Chronicles: Alex:: Stuck in a rut!

So the question that is out there is “Did you meet up with your ex-boyfriend?”…. YES guys I did. The weird thing is I have no regrets.

Okay so me and my ex were chatting via telephone and email for some time now. Flirting and reminiscing on old times. Well after awhile I felt horrible because he was aware of my relationship status and all that ran through my mind was “what goes around comes around”. He stated that he understood about my relationship, but would still like to see me so we could talk in person… BIG MISTAKE!

Well about 3 times a week I go to this coffee place to read, so I told him to come there. He walked in and all I could say was WOW, damn he looked good. It was like seeing a ghost from the past, but this ghost looked better then I remembered. The night went on and he did very subtle gestures to let me know that he still wanted more, like touching my hand over the table, sweeping my hair from my face, etc… Then it happened! He said, “Alex, you were the best thing that has ever happened to me, you were meant for me and I for you. We can’t base our tomorrow by continuously harping on mistakes of our youthful past… and blah blah blah”. It all sounded just too right, but inside I also felt too wrong (due to my boyfriend). Well the night winded down and he walked me to my car, and yes we kissed. OMG, I can’t remember the last time that I had butterflies after kissing, there was this tingle that ran down my spine. It was… magical (corny, I know), but it was.

So the question is, now what? Do I explored this tingle down my spine, or do I continue in this relationship that stimulates nothing?

HELP ME FOLKS!

Re-post:The Mind of a Ladies' Man

Meet Rich, a 29 year old ladies' man with charisma that could make any woman melt! Cupid’s Cousin (CC) interviewed this Houstonian Bachelor and journeyed inside the mind of a ‘ladies man’.


CC: How many women are you currently seeing?
Rich: (laugh) 3 consistently. There are more but if we’re talking consistently, 3.

CC: Are any of these women the one?
Rich: No

CC: Does each of these women have a different rank or purpose?
Rich: No. I want them to serve more of a purpose but they don’t. They don’t offer enough to categorize one as my domestic chick, freak etc. it is what it is. I enjoy my time with each of them but not enough is brought to the table. I wish they did but they don’t. I’m not interested in them for the long haul so I don’t require much of them. I just allow them to be themselves and however they choose to interact with me, so be it.

CC: Do you think any of these women feel for you more than you feel for them?
Rich: One of them does.

Find out what else Rich has to say when you click Read More!

5 Stages of Most Relationships

Relationships are a lot of work. They can end in happiness, but most often, they end in a passive aggressive battle. We decided we'd show you the stages of most relationships.

click link to read the rest of the steps... funny stuff

http://www.maxim.com/humor/stupid-fun/84487/5-stages-most-relationships.html

Were You Really That Great? Doubt it!!!

First things first it's important for men to understand that many women have a difficult time having an orgasm. Most women will never expierence the 'Big O' in their life time. If you are a man who is detemined to master the art of love making you must know and listen to her body!

1. If she has a sudden orgasm, SHE'S FAKING

2. If she seems distracted, SHE'S FAKING

3. If she is NOT wet, DUH!!!

How can you know when it's real???

You’ll know that she’s for real when her body temperature is up, her labia are swollen, wet and are a darker pink or purple than usual. They’ll also give off voluntary and involuntary muscle contractions, and her clitoris will be larger than normal. Her breasts may feel bigger in your hands as they’ll be a little more swollen, and her nipples will be hard and erect. These things just can’t be controlled by a woman and will be easy for you to see and discover.http://www.askmen.com/dating/love_tip_300/308b_love_tip.html

Top 10 Deal Breakers According to Men

10. She doesn't back you up.

9. She flirts with other guys.

8. She neglects you publicly.

7. She lies

6. She criticizes you.

5. She dissapears without telling you.

4. She abuses you.

3. She scolds you publicly.

2. She has a substance abuse problems.

1. SHE CHEATS.

CLICK THE LINK BELOW FOR DETAILS!

http://www.askmen.com/top_10/dating/top-10-deal-breakers_10.html

Cupid's Proverb

LET GO OF YOUR BAGGAGE! YOU MUST REALIZE THAT THE PAST HURTS BUT THE PRESENT DIDN'T INFLICT THE PAIN.

Cupid's Chronicles::Brandon: On Second Thought...

I'm sorry to dissapoint the readers but I have yet to approach 'My Crush' BUT I have done some investigating! I've learned that she is a serial employee dater. She has dated at least 3 other guys in different departments. Now, that leaves me to assume she is single which is a good thing but for some reason it makes me see her differently...

Cupid's Chronicles::Candace: That's Hot!

For starters, I landed the deal with those clients!!!! Now on to my love life. Not much is going on I'm fighting the urge to call Kai back and it's getting easier as the days pass. Oh yea! I met this HOT HOT HOT guy at 'Olives' last week and we've been talking since. He tends to talk about himself alot but he's really handsome and has alot of checks on my list so I ignore the small flaws. Let me be frank, I figured if all else fells this guy could at least serve as my lover. It's been quite some time since I've been intimate and my hand held friend needs some rest! So I'll keep my fingers crossed on this one!

Top 10 Aphrodisiacs

Here are the top 10 foods that will get your juices flowing to those special parts!

10. Asparagus

9. Almonds

8. Avocado

7. Bananas

6. Basil

5. Chocolate

4. Figs

3. Garlic

2. Oysters

1. Honey

Click the link to below to get the juicy details! http://www.alternet.org/healthwellness/132846/the_top_10_aphrodisiac_foo?page=entire

Cupid's Chronicles::Brandon: Circle Yes or No

So I've been crushing on this beautiful lady that works at my job. I was told she has a boyfriend and to be honest I couldn't care less. I'm thinking may the best man win right? Anyway I'm having a hard time trying to figure out if she's into me or not. I could swear she's giving me the flirty eye (you know the look lol) but then again it could all be my imagination. Here's a little secret ladies...men HATE rejection! I know no one likes to be rejected but it can REALLY cut us deep. For this reason, I must come up with a smooth approach. Don't get me wrong, I don't have trouble conversing with women when I'm out but this is different. I gotta work with this woman! I would have to see her everyday and re-live the rejection each time we pass! Maybe I should just try the classic "do you like me? circle yes or no" method. lol I'm sure it will at least make her smile. I'll give it some thought and keep everyone posted. Later

Cupid's Chronicles:: Alex: Lust is easy, Love is hard, Like is most important, Part II

Ahhhh what do I do? I tried people...seriously I tried. I did the whole "re-light the flame" shit, and it has not worked. What worries me more is that I want to one day marry this man because he is everything my soul desires. So what is the problem you may ask? Well.... here is my confession: my ex has arrived on the scene. Yes, he popped up and has me more confused. I try to remind myself, "Self, you guys broke up for a reason!", but just the very thought of being "naughty" has me curious.

Yea, yea, yea I already know what you are thinking..."you are not married nor obligated to your boyfriend". Well what if I do it, and it sucks? I will feel worse than before, but...what if I fulfill my curiosity and it is the experience of a lifetime? That makes it okay right? lol

Listen to me trying to convince myself to do bad. When in reality it is the LUST that is driving my hormones, and it is that same LUST I am trying to get back in my relationship. So once again I am back to my original question, how do I get the LUST back with the man I actually LOVE?

DATING DON'TS

1. Don't bend down to sip from your straw. This is sooooo elementary! Pick your glass up and enjoy your beverage!!!

2. Don't lay down the law on your first date. You're not a drill sergeant so keep the convo light and simple!

3. Don’t talk about sex on the first date. This topic may curb your date's interest in YOU & activate their one track mind.

4. Don't fish for compliments. Probing for praise is the best way to annoy your date and reveal your insecurities.

5. Don't answer your phone during a date. This rude gesture will leave you date feeling like you're just not that into them.

Cupid's Chronicles:: Brandon: My World

When approached with the opportunity to write about my 'dating escapades' I turned it down without a thought. After some convincing, I decided what the hell! It’ll be anonymous so I'll give it a go. Where do I start? I've been single for the last 2 years. My last relationship lasted for 3 years and we nearly got married. I called off the wedding four months before the actual wedding date because honestly I just wasn't ready. I felt compelled to propose once we found out she was expecting but I had this gnawing voice telling me that this wasn't the right thing to do. I broke the news to her over dinner and I felt like the worst person on earth at the sight of her tears. Now she and I are proud parents who are cordial solely for the sake of our son. So here I am single in Houston. I began dating again about a year ago and I must say women are damn near impossible to please! But that’s a whole other story that I'll touch on some other day. This feels weird writing about this but I guess it will take some getting use to...Later.

Cupid's Chronicles:: Estevan: One brick at a time does it...

I woke up this morning and thought about nothing more than going to work. For the first time in a long time I don't think about the fact that I am alone. I don't need to have someone in my life in order to feel happy, not that I'm happy or unhappy. I just am... Could it be that I have developed the "I'm just fine being by my myself" wall? The same wall that has ended many a relationship. The same wall that has left me in the same place that I am now, only suffering and feeling completely worthless. I guess I should feel happy that I am not like that, right?

Cupid's Chronicles:: Candace: The Phone Call

Hello All!!!! Okay so let me set the scene... I'm in my office today checking my work email, preparing for today's presentation that I have to present to some VERY important clients and.... my cell phone rings. My screen reads a name that makes my heart drop, Kai! Now let me back track, who is Kai you ask? Kai is the ONE man that I have ever loved in my adult life. I have always been viewed by my friends as the 'workaholic' and for the most part their view of me was accurate. I work 24 hours a day and not because I love my job but because I'm good at it and it pays extremely well! For this reason I saw men a as deterrent from making money. Kai should've been viewed no differently but for some reason I've allowed his handsome looks and charm to interrupt my tunnel vision. Allowing him into my heart proved to be one of the worst mistakes of my life! I've known Kai for years, through mutual friends, and I understood him to be quite the ladies man. For this reason, I set my mind to avoid catching feelings at all cost and I was doing well until one day my bullet proof armor was powerless. I fell in love and HARD but so did he...I think. We soon made our relationship public and his girlfriend of 6 years (yes you read it correctly) caught wind of it and exposed Kai's truth. He was living a double life and was currently juggling two relationships. So I found myself picking up the pieces in my life and delving into my work full steam ahead until, 7 months later, my phone rings! I thought I was over him! So why does something as simple as seeing his name on my phone make my world crumble! I was stern when telling him to lose my number today, but I know if I never hear from him again I'll be even more hurt. Blogville, I have really met my match with this one! Okay I gotta finish this later it's close to presentation time. I hope I can keep it together long enough to land this deal...Wish me luck!

Cupid's Chronicles:: Alex: Lust is easy. Love is hard. Like is most important. Part I

Let me introduce myself before I spill my guts for all to read. I am 27 year old woman that has been in a relationship for 7 years. I work in an art gallery, which I will not disclose, that I love love love!! I am in love with my job.

So why am I blogging? Well.... relationships are hard, and we all need an outlet, so this is mine. Here goes...

Like I said before I have been with the same man 7 years, and I wish that I loved my relationship as much as I love my job. Don't get me wrong I love my guy, but actually being in love with him is harder. I remember daydreaming about our love and our love making, so fulfilling, so sensual, so... lustful. Damn, it was delicious. We use to, well I use to, want nothing more but to have sex with him, now it's past the lust and now it's on to the love. Like I said lust is easy, but once you actually fall in love with a guy, that lust bubble floats away and reality sits in.

What can I do to keep that yearning of lust, but maintain the feeling of love?

CC's Love Guide:

I was watching "The Notebook" the other day and cried the entire length of the movie! Is it just me or are the heated arguments in these films even dalloped with romance? Later that evening, I thought about how misleading these movies can be. So I share with you my harsh epiphany. We should take away the glamour that Holloywood has glazed love with. When merging into a relationship we should go in with our eyes wide open. Art does NOT always imitate life. Don't get me wrong true love is a beautiful necessity but we must realize that our patrner will inevetibly do things that will make you swear he/she took a class on the 'art of being hurtful'. We must fall in love with REAL love for it is no movie it's reality!!!!